Stop Waiting for Permission to Step into More

You have been waiting for someone to tell you that you're ready.

Waiting for more time. More money. More confidence. More credentials. Waiting until circumstances align perfectly before you take the step that has been sitting on your heart for months — maybe years.

But what if the door is already open and you just haven't walked through it yet?

In this season-closing episode, Key Glover delivers a faith-forward declaration for every woman who has been playing small, waiting for permission, or letting fear disguise itself as wisdom.

We're talking about what it means to step into your "more" — not someday, not when everything is perfect, but right now — in faith, with what you have, from where you are.

This episode includes an activating breathwork practice, the Week 4 affirmation spoken aloud as a declaration, and a conversation anchored in Psalm 138:8.

The door has your name on it. It is time to walk through it.

📓 This week's journal prompts:
· Where have you been playing small because fear told you it wasn't your time?
· Write a letter to the version of yourself that exists 6 months from now.

🎙️ New episodes every Tuesday. Follow @bigeyedgirlpodcast on Instagram for weekly affirmations and journal prompts.

Transcript

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Hello, beautiful. Take a breath. You're exactly where you need to be. Welcome to the Big Eye Girl Podcast, a space for real conversations, honest reflection, and learning how to see life through a bigger, wider lens. I'm so glad you're here. Whether you press play because you're searching for clarity, growth, or just a moment to breathe and feel seen, you're in the right place. And around here, we talk about things that shape us the challenges, the shifts, the lessons, and the quiet moments in between that often matter the most. This is a space where you don't have to have it all figured out. You just have to be open. So wherever you are right now, driving, walking, or just sitting with your thoughts, settle in. Take what you need from this conversation and allow yourself to see things a little differently today. Let's get into it. You have not missed your moment. Whatever you whatever door you've been standing in front of, afraid to knock, afraid it won't open for someone like you. I need you to hear this that the door has your name on it. And God did not bring you this far to leave you. Standing on the outside, we are walking into more today. Let's go. As we have started a new ritual of breath work, and this faith breath work is energetic. It's a forward-moving breath work to help us fill up. Okay? I want you to breathe in like you are breathing in everything that has waiting for you. Everything God has already prepared. Breathe it in all the way to the top. Now hold it. Feel it. Now excel. And as you breathe out, release the fear, the doubt. The what if I'm not enough? We don't need it here. We don't need it where we're going. One more time. In fill up. Hold. And out. Let fear go. You ready? I am. Our affirmation for today, I want you to declare it over yourself. As I speak it, speak it out loud with me. Even if you're at your desk, even if you're in a cubicle, even if you're in the salon working, at the job, wherever you may be with me. You might be in your kitchen cooking. You may be in your bathroom. You listen to it. You may be on your walk because it's so humid and hot and beautiful outside. Speak it out loud to yourself. Just repeat after me. Or even bet, even better, come back to this episode and just listen to it again and write it down. I am not too late. I have not missed my moment. God's timing is perfect. And the doors ahead of me have my name on them. I step forward in faith even when I cannot see the full picture. Again, beloved. Remember these words as you speak them. Remember that God's timing is perfect. Okay. I want to share. Um, I'm always sharing here, right? I'm always sharing. Sharon is caring. A specific moment in my life, and I've had many moments in my life, thank God, where faith called me out of comfortability. Poo Lord. When I was just like, you know what? I gotta go for it. Because currently I have nothing happening, and everything in the past is a mess, and I definitely don't want to go back to that. Am I talking to anybody? Anyone can relate to that? Like, I have no choice but to go for it. Like, I'm at go for it only, and I have no idea what is all in store for me for it ahead of me. But I know intuitively that if I don't go forward, I can't go back. I'm not gonna make it back there. Is anybody in agreement with that? Can anybody testify to that statement? I know. Honey child. Some of y'all have heard um my story, a little bit of my story about starting my salon and how that was a faith move. I'm gonna be brief on that one. And um, but is it is definitely a faith move because I was in a place where I began, I was praying, I won't say I began, but I was praying a lot, and in my my form of praying was journaling. I journal, my journaling was my prayer because a lot of them was I was talking to God. I was talking to God, and God was talking back to me. I would be opening up my Bible. I would, it would end up in sometimes, sometimes it would end up in me what we would think of a Bible study, but it was God taking me to his word to confirm his promises to me as I was writing out my issues, as I was telling him what I was thinking, or telling him what was going on in my life, and not just with me personally, with people around me, family, friends, relationships I was in, and that would be my form of prayer. I'll always write it out, and it was a moment where I wrote out, like God, what gift is it that you want to use? Because Lord God, I have so many of them. I'm a multifasted woman, and years ago growing up, being multifasted, I don't know if it was, it would probably was verb, yeah, it was verbiage to it, but it wasn't expressed in certain demographics, and I mean black communities. If you had too many thoughts going on in your head, or you was all over the place, they will be like, This child is all over the place. She needs to go sit down and focus on one thing. They would like make us hyper focus on one thing because we were deemed as hyper, like that's too much, and it could be too much, especially when you didn't know how to um direct that energy to that that child is giving. It and my grandmother, um, she was good at directing the energy, she would make my hands creative, she will put my hands to work. She will always say, Let me put your hands to work so the devil can get out your mind, so you can see what you can feel and see what you're doing. She will say things that was just so profound. She will say prophetic statements, she will take me to the Bible. She will just say, The enemy is busy in your head. You just need to focus. Use your hands. What is your hands telling you to do? And he said, she was she was just like, create. What do you want to create today? And it will take me, and that energy will be focused into one thing and one or two things, but it will be projects that she would put me on. Um thinking about it now, God is just bringing it to me as I'm speaking. My grandmother was was doing what they would call Montessori, the Montessori program with me. And learning how to do things yourself, being self-sufficient. What do you like to do? What do you want to do today? What are you doing to do right now? Um, I had things at my fingertips to learn from, whether it was gardening with her, whether it was sewing with her, whether it was doing ceramics with her, whether it was cooking, whether it was going outside, having free time, riding my bike, playing in the mud, making mud pies, playing with my toys, um, going outside with my friends, coming back in, having lunch, all those things, it was she was allowing me to explore myself, having books to read, encyclopedias to discover. Okay. I know I'm going on a little bit of a tangent. Well, not a tangent. I'm just giving building some foundation. Okay. So with that, it brought me to my prayer at 20-something years old, my early 20s, and me saying, God, okay, I have all I still have all these gifts, and I'm dibling and dabbling here and there, and I am now feeling all over the place because I'm old enough to understand that uh I'm like I'm spiraling out of control a little bit, and I wanted some structure because I was new in my faith. I was beginning to really be serious about my relationship with God, and I wanted to serve him wholeheartedly. I wanted to serve his people, I wanted to be of service, I wanted to put things to work, and I knew I was best with my hands. I knew I was, I had talents to give. I knew I had intellect. I knew I had wisdom. Also, I had youth on my side. So being around a lot of people that were older than me or had titles that I didn't have, they will, you know, put me in positions where it's like, okay, you had to, you had to strive, you had to prove yourself, you know, we had to go through all this, you know, you do too. So um part of me was not okay with that, but I knew how to surrender sometimes. I knew how to submit. I mean, I not say surrender, I knew how to submit to authority, right? So it took me to writing in my journal. Because I started to be treated, and it started to make me feel some type of way. And it made made me feel like, okay, if this is how God's house is this is how his people treat each other like Lord, I can go outside, and at least I know that's how they treat you, you know. So I went to Lord in prayer and asked him what gift. And he said a gift that I was actually avoiding for a long time. Because growing up in Detroit, we were known as the hair capital, everybody did here, and not just everybody did here, it was a lot. We had a lot of predecessors in the hair industry and the beauty industry that were had has have laid foundation for stylists like myself, cosmetologists like myself, to be able to flourish on. Well, how brands are how we see a lot of avant-garde looks and styles, honey. I can't, I won't even lie, I know a lot of it came from some of the stylists back in Detroit, like little Willie and all. Like, if you're from Detroit, you already know. So when God answered the question for me, it wasn't immediate. It wasn't like oh, he answered that night while I was studying. I wrote it out because that night it was like pages and pages because I was um serving, helping with my grandmother as a caretaker with my parents, and um, that was a season in our lives that was I won't say tramultuous, but it was challenging. It was challenging physically, it was challenging mentally for us and spiritually, like all three components of the human body was being challenged for all of us. And in my grandmother's physical state, she was still very much strong spiritually, and it's something how God was using her in those spaces, in that time, in that season, to speak to me while I was serving her, and I will say serving her, honoring her. And three days later, the Holy Spirit, through my bishop at the time, answered and said, The gift that you're playing lightly is the one that God is going to use. And immediately, first I was like, Wow, God, you just why did you have to answer that way? That's not how we usually communicate. But you know, God does new things, and there's so many different facets of God. And as I've grown in my walkyard, I've learned that God is multifaceted, He has so many ways of us seeing Him and being in relationship with Him and being a part of Him. And sometimes we get so used to how God does things that we're expecting Him to always do it that way. For a person that's multifaceted like me, that's called boring. It is, yeah. Can we change it up? Can we put, I don't know, you like scrambled eggs? Okay, can we put a little pepper in it? Can we put an onion in it? Can we put, you like, you don't like cheese? Get a non-dairy cheese. Like change it up a little bit sometime. I digress. So answering that, it was cosmetology, it was hair. And I just knew I I knew I I thought that I knew everything I needed to know about hair. Until Holy Spirit was like, Yeah, you need to go to hair school. I said, Well, wait a minute. And mind you, I'm in college right now. I am in the art, uh, American Intercontinental University. I'm in a college that had cost me almost 90 grand to go to. And I'm like, whoa, we about to stop going to school to do this. Like, how are we doing this? And it did. It took me from college, it took me having a conversation with my mom, um, her not quite understanding at the time, and it was okay. You know, now hindsight, definitely okay. I'm glad we went through the places we went through because even though she didn't see what God has showed me at that time, and I know I'm speaking to somebody, even if who you, your biggest, your parent, I would just say a parent or somebody, a guardian that you like they they are with you 110% in everything over because they're a parent, right? But you may want to pivot into something that you're feeling or knowing that God is leading you into, or you intuitive, like, I need to do this, I need to do this over here, and they may not support you the way they were supporting in another area, and this is where you all. I learned to trust God blindly, and I say blindly because in faith, sometimes you just have one word, a statement, or direction. You don't know nothing else until you fulfill that first part, baby. That's blind to me. That's not enough. I have again I'm not such a giggle, it's a part of me that wants to be analytical and have all my T all my T's crossed and all my I's dotted. And it's a part of me like, okay, let's go. I don't care, I'm spontaneous, you know. So there, there's that. With that, she now she it a lot, God allowed me to grow, it allowed my mom to grow in her relationship with God because she began to seek God concerning her daughter. And is my daughter okay? Is she well? You know, as a mother would do, a concerned mother. However, God was drawing her in that same time closer to him concerning her, and it built things within her. Um, that is helping her stand today in her walk, in her life, in her walk, in her journey. So moving into um entrepreneurship, being becoming a salon, you know, becoming a master cosmetologist was definitely ordained by God and is part of my destiny um to walk to walk through these, to navigate, to have navigated these spaces because it's helped me be the woman I am today. If I hadn't taken that leap of faith, I wouldn't have seen, I don't believe I would have, I probably know, I don't know. I don't know, God. I don't think I would have seen what I saw. It would have been a different narrative, you know. And it opened up so many doors, y'all. Too many doors. Everything that I wrote down, y'all. Everything, everything to from the first line I wanted to work in to being featured in magazines, having interviews, um, working with multi-million dollar brands, international brands, traveling, meeting phenomenal people, being on commercial sets, being on set, uh working in movies, working, having associates to this day, friends and associates to this day that I can call that are here in Georgia, in New York, in Chicago, in Cali, in Texas, um, in England, and you know, it's a lot of different places that that's only God. Can I could have done it on my own? Probably not, because my my own personal direction, I was in school for fashion design and marketing. Yes, I did end up getting my I end up getting my bachelor's degree. That's the thing that when you delight yourself. In the Lord, Holy Ghost, you better give me a word. When you delight yourself in the word, in the Lord. When you truly delight yourself in the Lord, He will give you the desires of your heart. Me going through that particular door and that gifting open up for other parts of me that God wanted to show me that He put in me. A coach, a mentor, a host of a podcast, an entrepreneur, a mother, a wife, a caretaker, a nurturer, a gardener, an artist, a creative. Seeing that, yes, I'm all these things. Do I function in those all these things at one time? Sometime. But they come naturally to me. And as for a lot of you look, you listening, you may be in the same boat, and you're like, okay, which one do I use? I used that one because it was a that's what God said first. And I remember I was a part of evangelism team at my old church, and we were all we were going out on a um a mission, and we were all riding, and this this particular bus we were on, the people, the individuals on the bus were all multifaceted people. And we used to have jam sessions. Like we was rapping on there, singing, poetry, dancing. Yes, not I didn't sound safe on the bus, but we were. We were gigging out, we was having fun, and we were delighting ourselves in the Lord. We were out on a mission to go reach the neighborhoods, the hood, talking to people, going to different states, and having fun, a whole lot of it. Yep, that's his name. Um, shout out to Tripp, if you ever listen to this podcast. He was driving and I was in the passenger seat, and he was like, and we were going around asking each other because we were all gifted. What gift would you give? Would you work for free? Like would you wouldn't charge? Like, like you would just do it. And it got to me, and I'll, as everybody was telling theirs and saying theirs, I'm praying, I'm like, okay, God, I want to be honest with myself. I want to be honest with these people. Like, I don't want to be lying, but I also want to know what would I just give freely? And um I was new at this juncture. I was new into my um, I think I was still in hair school at the time. So, yep, I was still in hair school. I think I was still in hair school. If not still in hair school, yes, I was still in hair school. So I told him, I said hair. And he was like, I knew you was gonna say that. I said, Yeah, hair. Because I would. At that time, I would. Now, now as a businesswoman, yes, I've learned not to just give, give, give, but that is a gift. And I was just told, I was just taught another interpretation of what this really, you know, when God is giving us gifts, we always think, you know, he's gonna use our gift. But my current pastor, PD, he broke it down, and what that really means is generosity. And when he taught us that one Sunday, the Holy Spirit in his infinite wisdom took me back to the story I just shared with you. I said, God, that's why I say that. And the Holy Spirit said, Yeah. Because you're generous in that area. When it comes to here, y'all, and in this industry for me, I'm not a gatekeeper. Have I been gatekeeped? Mm-hmm. I'll have it. I've been embarrassed, I've been humiliated in front of people. I've been humiliated in front of millionaires because they one, they didn't know who I was, they didn't see what I saw, and didn't understand how God had got me there. They didn't understand how I got there, not knowing God had got me there. That it was some obedient people, it was some obedient soldiers for Christ, implemented in their organizations and in their companies, doing what God told them to do. But God prevailed all the time. I never lost position, I never forgot who I was. I never bowed. And I'm grateful for that. And some people, you know, they was like, oh, she's arrogant, she's this. I started to get called out. I was like, well, I don't know. I'm just a little, I'm a little confident. I'm a lot confident, especially when it comes to this. Because, but I'm also willing to learn. I like new innovative things. I love seeing stylists that's doing some things, but I love adding to them. Okay, you sis, I see what you're doing. Why don't you add this and add this and add that? Because that's gonna make it that's gonna make it right, that's gonna take you to the next level. So podcasting. Y'all, yep, I was afraid of this too. I think I'll because I'm older now, I've been through some stuff. I've been through a lot of stuff. Well, now I'm 40 plus years old, and it's like, ooh, God, you still you I got something to say? So he's just like, yes, you do. Well, podcasting, hosting, um it's a level of counter up, it's a level of accountability for yourself if you not just morally speaking, I'm a Christian. I'm a believer, I'm a kingdom child, and I don't play that lightly. I don't want to steer people the wrong way. However, God knows that I'm someone like King David. I'm real, I'm real transparent. Like, I don't like something, I don't like that. And God help me if I'm wrong. And they should get this and they should get that, and then like, you know, Lord, forgive me. Help them, and I get to praying. People like, okay, that that's coming off. No, that's my that is letting you know the truth of my heart. It's not always, oh Lord's gonna bless you, and it's gonna no, mm-mm. Mm-mm. And I wanted people to hear my heart in this in hosting my this podcast, my podcast, and hoping that it inspired people to see themselves and to move and to heal and to become whole, and to um invite people to Christ to help people remind people that he's a forgiving God, he's a redeemer. So um, yeah, then afraid to embrace some things that I was ashamed of. So in me speaking to y'all, God is speaking to me as I speak on the issues of my heart currently and healing me simultaneously in areas and using my testimony to make me stronger, give him glory, and to help other people draw closer to him. Amen. I mean, which y'all got it, right? So it takes me to Psalms, um, Psalm 138 and 8. That's the foundational scripture for this episode, and it reads the Lord will protect, uh-uh, that's wrong. The Lord will perfect that which concerns me. Your mercy, oh Lord, endures forever. Do not forsake the works of your hands, sis bro. If you listen and tapped into, I don't know if you at this point, I don't know. The Lord's gonna perfect with concerns here. Why I went into here while in college for something else, and I put that on hold for a little bit to pursue it, is because I just trusted God, and He gave me a word, He spoke directly to my heart, to my need. Not my want, y'all, my need, and I just had enough trust to say, God, I've tried a lot of other things already. Let me just try you. I want to really see you in my life. And was the path easy, y'all? No. Was it always clear? No. I surrounded myself with people that were God-fearing, that were believers, that trusted Lord, some people that I knew that were walking by faith and not by sight. So my circle changed. I couldn't, in that season, I couldn't really entertain myself with a lot of people that weren't believers because I wouldn't have been able to be standing here talking to you right now about this particular thing. Um, with that, it also this scripture is even reading it now, his mercy endures forever. It's always merciful. So I take that as it's gonna be moments in the journey of stepping into faith where you feel like I want to sit it down, like I can't touch it right now. Um, no, or you do a detour. We do do, we do do detours. Don't think that you're gonna just go on a straight, straight shot. That's a lot. And if you have done a straight shot, amen, tap in and leave that in the comment. How you do that straight shot? But as for me and people I've known, mm-mm, it'd be some detours, it'd be some pit stops, it'd be some stops, some seasons of I Lord, I don't want to do it no more. Keep going because it's in his mercy endures forever, and his word says, and this is King David, forsake not the works of your hand, he made us, y'all, and he's not gonna forsake us. He said, He'll never leave us nor forsake us. And he's I had to anchor into the word. I had to find scriptures that will anchor me when my faith, when I didn't, when my faith got low, or the fervor that I had when I got the word, my steadfastness had to jump in. Sometimes we have the fervor, we have it, we had a fire, but then we need to be able to endure, be steadfast, and that is not that's the part that's where it gets. When is it gonna shake? When is it gonna happen? I've learned that in the steadfastness in that part, in that transition area, so much is happening. God is doing so much in there, even though we are irritated, frustrated, mad at ourselves sometimes, crying, emotionally feeling unstable, up and down, around, joy, then happy, you know, happy, then sad, then you feeling like Lord, maybe I need to go sit on a chair and talk to a psychiatrist, not a therapist. You're gonna get you feel like all those things. Look, I'm gonna put it on the flow, but all I'm gonna let you know is you have permission to be you, you got permission to get through this one, okay? All right, right now, I want to say, like, even with the permission to do what you feel like God is telling you to do in this season. This season, I am working on two things. One is I was in my before I started recording, um, I pray. And before then, I was doing a little bit of devotion. I'm gonna say a little bit, I was doing my devotion time, and then I stopped and I read some emails and being reminded, um, I'm starting a collective called the Foundation Collective, and it's for beauty professionals. And once they're out of school, they graduated in their first one to three years of their um interesting. This I would not edit this out because this is real life, right? Real time. Um, so I I had to re-record this section of the podcast because for some reason my audio got cut off. So, yeah. What I was saying was I started the Foundation Collective, and I started it because I I saw a gap, but you get to a place, you get to a point in your career, you're calling life, let's just say life, that evolution, evolving, growing, changing, all those adjectives, right? Verbs, a lot of them's action, okay. Um they require more of you more you you begin to get stretched, like you feel like play-doh, and I'm I'm saying like dough, like if you ever made bread or pie crust needing that bread or needing bread, you're being stretched and moved, and you know that okay, God, I I'm supposed to be doing something else, it's something else for me in this, like you're not changing the career, like the path is the same. You're still using some of the same tools, but you have a gain, I've I've gained a lot of wisdom, knowledge, technical skills, but I'm outgrowing an old space and I'm going into a new space of what I saw myself years ago, but now I'm it and becoming in that what I which I saw. So I'm an educator, always wanted to be an educator. Um, and this space creating the foundation collective is trying to me, y'all. I ain't gonna lie, like it's taking a lot of discipline. I just currently moved into a new place, my son and I. And if any of y'all know about like moving is I won't say it's dumb, but it is exhausting. And when you 40 plus years old, I had movers, thank God, but and I had my mom help me. We was boxing up my son. Yeah, my son was able to help this time, like he's older, he's boxing stuff up, he's boxing up his room, packing up his room and seeing other things, and I know I'm going off to left with this reason. In that, I got all this motion, and it's like, okay, God, in our mind, we have these timestamps, like I need to do be here by this time, and I gotta be doing like this timeline that we put ourselves on, and um beginning to, well, I'm gonna say beginning to, every time that I transition transition into something new, I automatically subconsciously put myself on the timeline. Then I grow frustrated with this timeline because I feel like I haven't met the point or I missed the mark. And I'm receiving more of God's grace towards myself in this, that when you are given something, when we are given something, a new assignment or a promotion, in like when sometimes we don't tell people or we don't talk about it as much. God is teaching me, I've walked in discretion, but this level of discretion is different, it's like don't talk about it until it's it's ready, you know, or and that that can be a little contradiction, contradicting because and I'm being slow with my speech because it's like sometimes you just want to get it right, you want to say it right. I'm learning how to extend grace to myself, I'm learning how to accept the grace, not just extend it to myself, but accept it because I'll extend it, because extending something doesn't necessarily mean you have accepted it. I'm learning to accept it because I put myself on this timeline. This timeline says I was supposed to have launched it by now, but I didn't, and I don't beat myself up, but I am reminded to work on it little by little. So these this is one thing that I am currently in real time working on while still walking through life, while still being a mom, while moving, while still running the business, and having the discipline, the structure, and being able to, I can't be everywhere that I want to be. Uh, friend of mine, she had uh a showing, and I really wanted to go, but my moving weekend fell on the same weekend as her showing, and I didn't plan it like that, it just happened like that, and happened to say to her because I really just wanted to be there. Some people that you just really want, I want to be there for people because people I have people show up for me, and sometimes I'm just not always available. Um, and I never want anyone to feel some type of way that you know I came and showed up for her, and I'm always doing it all dah-da-da-da. And again, if they, you know, it is what it is. But this is this big eyed girl podcast, the foundation collective, or two babies that I am nurturing. The foundation collective is currently still in the womb. It hasn't been birthed out yet. Am I still working on the things behind the scenes? I am. And with that, it is woo. That's all I can say. It is woo. It's good. It's woo. So I'm giving myself permission. I'm giving myself permission to sleep. Take a nap. Stop. Pause. Return back to it. Because the older that I get, I can't run on empty like I used to in my 20s. I can't. In my 20s, it was like some I could go without food and get something done. But that's not healthy. It's not healthy. And it's just in this season of my life, it's not feasible. You know, that's not wisdom. But I'm giving myself permission to not just step out in the things that God is telling me to do, action-wise, like physically doing something. I'm giving my self permission to go with the flow. I'm giving myself permission to go exercise, go do extra, go do yoga, go sit out at the pool and read a book and watch my son play in the pool. Instead of feeling like I gotta get this done, I gotta get this work done, I gotta get this work done. Because these moments in life, life is just precious. And I'm allowing myself to as I journey to smell the roses as I go. Don't forget to smell the roses along the journey, y'all. Like we cannot forget that. So give yourself permission. We gotta give ourselves permission just to be present. Give ourselves permission to say, I can't show up for the function. Give yourself permission to go get some ice cream. Give yourself permission to play with your kids. Give yourself permission to watch a movie, take a walk with a parent, with a loved one you haven't, you know, give yourself permission. I believe those are the things that God is wanting us to give ourselves permission to be, not just to be working and doing something and always trying to achieve, but He wants us to really give ourselves permission to be, and whatever that is after be, be present, be soft, and be helpful, be served, be loved, be honored, be seen. We have to allow ourselves to give ours to give ourselves permission to do those things because boy oh boy y'all is yeah so if I think back like what would I tell myself the three three years ago key who was afraid to starve girl just what would I tell me? I would tell me that you're strong not because of how much you can put on yourself to push through, you have more courage than you think, you have a team of people around you who support you, who pray for you, who want to see you thrive, not just survive. You have new people that are coming your way, you have people that will be strangers at first, that will become your closest friends and associates. You have business relationships that will take you in leaps and bounds. You have a son that is going to manifest everything that you taught him. Uh you're gonna look younger than what you actually are. You're gonna you're gonna be able to be become soft. You're gonna get to where you're going. You're not too late. God has given you permission and just receive it and walk in it. Faith is a verb, it's not just believing, it's moving. And this week, I just want you to go towards something that you're afraid of, whatever it is. I don't know. You know what you're afraid of. I don't you know what the mountain is in front of you that once you begin to climb it and get to the top of it, it's gonna become a little hill, then it's gonna become nothing. But in that climbing and that conquering, you're gonna see what you made out of. Faith comes to show us what we got inside of us. We can feel it sometimes, you know, our intuition, like our thoughts, and we like, oh, just or we like that's the dreamer in us. That's our faith. But faith is what keeps pushing you, you know. The faith that gives you that subtle reminder to keep on working on whatever came to mind that you started to plant, and you when you planted the seed, you gotta water it, you gotta nurture it, you gotta water that ground. So, whatever it is that this week, I want you to take your time and go towards something that you've been afraid to start. Compassion is the thief. I'm not sorry, not compassion, comparison. Comparison is the thief of joy, baby. Instagram, tick tock, Facebook, they can be used for good things. They are, they can be, and they also, when you're not in a good place mentally, and you're beating yourself up, you feel like you're not working towards whatever faith is prompting you to do. I believe that social media should be the last place you should go to for encouragement because it can take it can take you down a dire downward spiral of comparison, and it can slowly sift out your joy. I'm not saying something I think, I'm saying something that I know, y'all. Like, I've been in that place where I get on social media and I get to compare myself, I get to look at like how she get that, why they got that, and what about me? Look what I've been doing. I've been trying, I've been moving, I've been never, and I get to complain, and then I start feeling bad, and then I'm in this space emotionally that is unhealthy, and now I have to shake it off. So when you get to that space where you feel like you need to compare, reach out to somebody, journal it, go for a walk until I've started to walk a little bit more. And the walking is grounding, y'all, giving that energy, letting that energy go. Ground it, leave it into the ground so you can ground yourself, your energy can be normalized where you feel better, that weight, that anxiety can come off of you. The reason we think we missed our moment is because we're looking for someone else's timeline. Go back to this timeline. Soon as God gives us an idea, soon as God reveals to us what's the next part of the assignment, we automatically give ourselves a timeline. We take the idea, the vision that God gave us, and we put it back into our hands. I don't you think you should ask the person who gave it to you, what's the timeline? That's the business partner. I believe that's what we miss it. Soon as we get the vision, as soon as we get the idea. If you're a believer, I'm you, that's the time you need to spend that with God. What's the plan? What's the blueprint? What's what's the strategy? What's the logistics here, God? Because I need them, I don't know them. What does staying in your own lane look like practically to you? What does that look like? Because you need to stay in your own lane. You can drive, stay in your lane. I want to get over there. I mean, they're going so much faster. You might need to be in a slow lane right now. And that slow lane may look like I work on it a little bit today. I work on it week by week. I give myself small little steps throughout the week to work on my projects, to work on the things that God gave me. Not to do it all in one setting. And y'all, right now I'm talking to myself because I had to come, I had to regroup myself, like, okay, God, I'm feeling like I've failed a little bit. Because I'm not accomplishing it at my timeline. God said, I never really gave you a timeline. You you gave yourself that one. I told you to do it. Then I got on the call with some people with the uh platform that I use, and she motivated me. She said, You already got this, do this, just do this part and let them come in and filter it that way, and then launch it around this. Honey, that woman gave me so many little tidbits in her one-on-one of helping me how to work the platform and let me know and can affirm in me even the more that you already got it. And sometime along the way, that's why we, when you're doing things, collaborate with people or talk to people, reach out to the resources that's available to whatever you're doing, and ask for someone to look at it from a fresher point of view. That way you have the understanding, you get the affirmation, you get the acknowledgement that you're looking for because we need affirmation. We do. I don't care what I don't care what people say, you need affirmation. I like affirmation. Tell me I'm doing good. I'll tell you that right now. Tell me I'm doing good. Tell me you see me. Help me, uh, affirm me. That's one of my love languages. I'll tell you in a minute. One of my play uncles on Father's Day, I text him. He said, Thank you so much. He said, This is one of my love languages, people. And I said, Amen. Thank you. Thank you for letting me know that about you. So now that you let me know that about you, guess what? I'm gonna do to you, I'm gonna cheer you on. Because when people are are holding so much, and gifted people, particularly, when we are holding so much, so many ideas, so many things we started we didn't and we put down because we thought it needed to be this way in my timeline. I went past my timeline, and somebody else is doing it, it don't matter. God still said you to do it. Talk to somebody, share with people who can help build it, and it may be up out of your comfort zone. Give yourself permission to meet more people, give yourself permission to be around different environments so that you can see different. If you keep allowing yourself to be in situations in environments where you are doing the same thing but want a different result, that's not healthy. You're not gonna get it, you're not gonna get what you're looking for. The door is already open to you. Psalm 138 and 8 is a promise. So write this out. It's a promise, not a possibility. God said with him, all things are possible. As long as you're aligning with him, it aligns with the will that God has for your life that's gonna give him glory, not you, you in there. When the things that I use to hold on, onto that are true in my life, when things are feeling uncertain, because I know that we can get these things, start working on them, and it gets to a point where you hit another mountain. You're like, dang, I had a good momentum, I was doing good, I was working on it, and all of a sudden it just like crashed. Been there, and probably gonna get there again. I talk to my mom. Um I pray about it, I cry. Sometimes my son will see my energy shift, and he'll be like, mommy, what's wrong? And I'm I'll say something to him. I'll reach out to friends or associates sometimes. But a lot of times, I'm first, it's God. God, what am I doing? I talk about where I am, I share with God my emotional state. I don't hide that, man. I don't, I don't hide it from Him. I don't, y'all. I cannot, I can't afford it. My mental capacity, I don't have it to hide anymore. To to keep it in internalized because that makes me sick. That will make us sick, that will form dis-ease in the body, discomfort, depression, all types of things that we see people suffering so much, we have a language for it now, and everyone says, Oh, I have this and I have that, okay. Well, if you have it, how are you dealing with that though? How what are you doing to help you get through it? Not to cope, what is your with your your process, with your therapy? How are you healing through it? Where are you becoming whole? What are you practicing on a daily to help you? And something things are gonna become uncertain, and that's a that's the truth. That's the truth of it. This is gonna look uncertain the more you start climbing, the more you start doing the thing that God said you do. You know, like, Lord, this don't look like what I thought. And that initial feeling that I got when I saw that I just had so much anticipation, I was excited and enthusiastic and optimistic, and now I feel like, yeah, this is dumb, I'm losing, I ain't got no money, this and all of that. Uncertain. But when you have created a space where people are around you that are praying for you, fasting for you, believing you, speaking life to you, you're implementing the things that you need, oh God gonna send you to help. He will. It may be you in your place, in your house, your apartment, your wherever you are, at work, in your car, wherever, on your bike, on your scooter. He's gonna show you. He's gonna show you, even if you have to step away for a second to get up a fresher point of view. This is June, y'all. This is the end. This is the last episode for June. And I'm I'm I'm excited for what's coming. I am the close of June with we're closing this June out with fire and a four-looking invitation. So your Jonah prompts this week are as follows. Where have you been playing small because fear told you it wasn't your time? I'm gonna repeat that. Where have you been playing small because fear told you it wasn't your time? And and if you wrote a letter to yourself six months from now, what would you want her to have stepped into? Six months from now. Um, I haven't wrote my letter yet, but I'm gonna write it. I'm gonna share it with y'all. I'm gonna probably I'm gonna do a video. Okay so y'all can see it. See me and see and hear it. But I'm gonna write a letter to myself. Write a letter to yourself. Talk to him. Will you wanna see yourself in six months from now? Put those things before God. Yes, I did say something about a timeline. I'm like, well, the key that's contradicting because you said I understand. Speak those things which be not as though they were. Some of those things will come to pass. How they're gonna come to pass may not be strategically how you want it to. I had to release that. That's a little control. Because God controls it all. So write the letter, read it out loud to yourself, and then take one step, just one, toward it this week. That's it. Not the whole six months in the right now, just one. Put that letter somewhere where you can see it. Maybe in your closet, maybe on your mirror. I don't know. But write that letter to yourself. All right, y'all. That's a wrap on June. June has been full, it's been fantastic. I'm watching family grow and love and be give themselves permission, real healing, guilt without guilt of rest is being released off of people I know. Conversations are different. Big eye girls, we're doing it, and I'm happy for you. I'm happy for us, I'm proud of us. We've talked about mental health. Please, y'all, continue to pray. I know people like oh prayer, prayer. Continue to pray. Pray for our brothers, pray for the men. Even if it's hard for you to pray for a brother or a male, they're still needed. There's still somebody's son, somebody's father, somebody's uncle, somebody's brother, somebody's daddy. We talked about gratitude, about being rooted, renewed, rested, and ready. And now we walk into more together. How exciting is that! Thank you all for giving me your ear, for giving me your attention, for following, for subscribing, for sharing, for reposting. Thank you. I deeply, deeply appreciate it. And this will not be what it is without y'all. Like seriously. I appreciate it. I love you so much. I definitely see you. I'll meet you in July. I'm Key and Girl Honey Chow. Remember to awaken the Yaday woman within. Peace. Before you go, I just want to say thank you for being here and choosing to spend this time with me. It really means more than you know. 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